As September 1 was approaching, many different things were running through my mind. Curriculum. Classroom management. Teaching strategies. Authentic assessment. How was it all going to fit together? What was it all going to look like? How on earth was I going to do it all?
But behind, or maybe I should say on top, of all the “teacher” and “education” stuff was a monkey on my back that had nothing to do with teaching and everything to do with who I am. It reared its ugly head strongly on the second day of inservice, a week before students arrived. I was overwhelmed with meetings and paperwork, still adjusting to the 40-minute commute, and not quite sure which of the three different schedules I was actually supposed to follow. As a result, I was 15 minutes late for a school-wide meeting.
Long pause. Long exhale… even now, as I write this. I hate to be late. Even more telling, I hate to be late because I hate to disappoint. All would have been okay in mind (I was giving myself a break… I am new after all!) if my principal hadn’t stopped in my room later that day and said “About this morning…” It was all I could do to fight back the tears. Grow up, Katie!
And that’s when the monkey went wild. I rarely question my ability or my intelligence. I can almost always fake my confidence when it’s required. But always always always I struggle with the fear of disappointing _________ . The name in the blank changes on any given day. What if I disappoint my principal? What if I’m not everything she expects me to be? What if I disappoint my mentor? What if I disappoint my students? What if I disappoint my parents? My friends? The homeless man on the corner? Seriously… it’s a disease.
Luckily (or unfortunately?), this is something I’ve struggled with all my life. And often, it has served me well. I’ve followed rules and obeyed laws to avoid disappointing people closest to me. I’ve pushed myself to do well in school and get good grades and start new journeys. And I’ve learned to live with it. I’ve learned to overcome it, to an extent… at least I’ve learned to temper it. To not let it get in the way of what it is I have to do.
But I once again find myself in the position of starting over. I’ve gone from doing something for 8 years and becoming a professional and being very good at my job to the rookie starting a new career… literally, starting at the very bottom. I want to be good. I’m used to be good. To being the best. And the hardest part for me right now is knowing that I’m not. Knowing that I have such a very long way to go. And knowing that it is very possible that I may disappoint one or two along the way.
On the bright side, my first few days have been amazing. And if history has taught me anything, it’s that I won’t be a rookie for long.